However, the MBTI shouldn’t always be a guideline for relationships and many STJs and INFJs have very happy relationships.Problems arise for INFJs and SJs in relationships often due to the N/S difference.The MBTI® can tell us where potential strengths and weaknesses lie, but it does not say ‘avoid this type / be with that type’.There are pluses and minuses to any relationship, and people within a type can vary so much based on upbringing and environment.If you want more in-depth info on INFJs and relationships be sure to check out my e Book The INFJ – Understanding the Mystic What INFJs Want In Relationships Is the perfect soulmate too much to ask for? One of the struggles of being an INFJ is that of being a true idealist and a perfectionist.
A great way of unlocking those feelings is by engaging in letter-writing (not just texting! In letters or even emails, you will often see a side of the INFJ that they have a harder time showing in person. The SJs appreciate the warmth, passion and sincerity of the INFJ.These two types will both take the relationship seriously and be very committed to each other.An INFJ usually (not always) will get along better with an ISFJ/ESFJ type than an ESTJ/ISTJ type, simply because both are concerned very much with maintaining harmony and will work to take care of each others feelings.ISFJs and ESFJs have Fe and Ti, which INFJs also have.INFJs share no common functions with ISTJs or ESTJs.